|Vivien Leigh as Scarlett O’Hara–photo from Wikipedia|
Carrie Fancett Pagels just posted some great thoughts over on the ACFW blog…thoughts on being a writing diva: http://www.acfw.com/blog/?p=4818. Hope you get to read it!
It makes me cringe to think that people actually act all high-and-mighty to their food servers at conferences. I’ve always thought that’s a sign of LOW-class, not high-class. Truly high-class people appreciate those willing to help them and treat them like the human beings they are. Shoot, even Scarlett O’Hara did that, and she was quite diva-liscious. (Okay, she did lose her temper with those who were inept, but that’s when they were fighting to survive…And she was selfish when she was married…Okay, she had some diva issues.)
But then I started thinking…what about a diva mentality in marriage?
Now, I’ll admit that, as a teen, I was easily the most melodramatic member of my family. But once I got married, I had to grow up (thank the Lord!). Yes, I might still have a somber, sullen jag here and there, or very rarely get pushed to the limit by something my hubby says. But at this point in our marriage, we’ve become more of a unit–more like-minded in our outlook on things. We might debate things, but we know when to stop pushing those buttons.
But what if I’d stayed the selfish, closed-minded girl I’d been as a newlywed? What if I hadn’t learned to adapt and listen to my hubby’s side of things?
DIVA. Diva wife. Diva mom.
A husband’s worst nightmare! A wife who manipulates him–maybe by crying, maybe by “guilting” him all the time. A mom who can’t deal when life goes off-schedule or off-script and everything hits the fan (it always does, with small children–especially in grocery stores and restaurants!). Someone who’s always looking for someone else to blame.
Yes, as moms and wives, we want schedules. We want husbands who help us out and listen to us. And, quite often, there IS someone else to blame. But sometimes, we have to give it up and let it go. And those are the times when God steps in and whispers, “Tell me about it.”
Yes, some of us are naturally more dramatic. But God can handle the drama. He can handle our emotions–just read any of the Psalms. King David was quite dramatic, and quite occasionally selfish.
We just have to fight to keep our drama from morphing into The Diva.
I’ve found that praying for our spouses and children can do just that. The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie O’Martian is an awesome study guide. It will revolutionize your marriage. There’s also The Power of a Praying Husband for men.
What happens when you pray specific prayers for those closest to you is that you start to see things from their point of view. You start to feel more compassion for them.
And compassion is very non-Diva-ish.
Praying God blesses us all as we humble ourselves and pray for those most important to us.
****Have you learned any specific ways to avoid the plague of The Diva?***